Love Yourself and He will Love You
By Kelley Chappell, PhD
Step # 1: Think Good Things about Yourself
It is your attitude about yourself that men will adopt. You determine how he thinks about you, how he feels about you and how he treats you. You must love and respect yourself if you want him to love and respect you. Focus on all the wonderful, positive qualities that are in you. Deliberately shape your thoughts about yourself by using affirmations or a journaling technique. How you think about yourself determines how you feel about yourself.
Step # 2: Feel Good About Yourself
Do whatever you can to feel good about yourself. When you feel good and you are happy, you radiate a light that shines and naturally attracts men. Your feelings create that “vibe” or the energy that you put out into the universe which determines the kind of men you attract to yourself and how they feel about you. The very instant you shift how you feel about yourself is the instant that you shift your relationship reality and this will change how men see you and how they treat you. Any woman can learn to feel good about herself and become magnetically attractive. The most important thing is how you feel about yourself.
Step 3: Encourage Yourself
This is about how you talk to yourself. Tell yourself the same positive encouraging, supportive things that you would tell your best friend. Be your own best friend. Tell yourself all the reasons why you can do something or why you do deserve something. Be easy on yourself if things don’t go exactly as planned. Tell yourself everything is going to be Okay. Learn to flow with life, secure in the knowledge that life is unfolding in a step by step way and that everything really is going to work out better than you can possibly imagine!
Step 4: Choose to Be Happy
Being happy is a choice and we are all responsible for our own happiness. True happiness comes from within, so learn to think happy thoughts and you will be happier. Then, get in the habit of treating yourself regularly and fully enjoy the time you spend with yourself. Learn to really enjoy your own company and do this on a regular basis whether you are in a relationship or not. How much you enjoy yourself will determine how much other people enjoy spending time with you. You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else.
Step 5: Make a Commitment to Yourself
Finally, make a firm commitment to love yourself, no matter what. This is going to mean that you are going to always be there to protect yourself. This means you can trust yourself. This means that you will walk away from a relationship if you know in your heart that you deserve something better. You will always be secure in the knowledge that you can count on you to take care of yourself!
I hope you can see that the true first step to being happy in love is loving yourself. The foundation for all the relationships you have in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. In my eBook, the first chapter is on learning to love yourself and I share dozens of concrete steps you can take to learn to really love yourself, raise your relationship self-esteem and feel good about yourself. If you learn to really love yourself, he will love you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
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“Love Yourself, Love Your Life and be Happy in Love”
Kelley Chappell, PhD